My name is Mel Robbins, and for the last seventeen years, I have done nothing but help people get everything that they want. Within reason! My husband’s here. So, I’ve done it in the courtroom, in the boardroom, in the bedroom, in people’s living room, whatever room you want to be in, if I’m there, I will help you get whatever you want by any means necessary. For the last three years – I host a syndicated radio show. Five days a week, I go live in forty cities and I talk to men and women across America who feel stuck. Do you know that a third of Americans feel dissatisfied with their lives right now? That is a hundred million people! That’s insane! And I’ve come face to face with it in this new show that I’m doing, which is also insane, it’s called “In-laws”. I move in with

Why is it that intelligent people procrastinate? Why is it that people that are so self-motivated often self-sabotage? And why is it that no matter how many new business opportunities we get or new skills we try to learn, many of us simply find different ways of earning the same amount of money or achieving the same kind of level of success, as if there were a glass ceiling above our heads that we’re trying to break through but didn’t know how? One thing we do know is that’s not due to a lack of resources or opportunity. We live in a time in history where there are more resources and opportunity than ever before. In fact, there’s many people that have access to resources and opportunity that really never get the battle to shoulder and take a swing at life, and the results are mediocre or disappointing. Then there’s

As a keen student of human behavior, I’ve been fascinated by watching people over the years. One of the things that fascinates me the most about us as a species is that we seem to be hardwired to disagree with each other. You know, whether it’s the social taboos of religion or politics, every one of us has an opinion that we seem to defend. Yet, I think one of the things we can all agree on is that we’re living in a time in human history that is absolutely unprecedented, a time that not even our ancestors could have dreamed about in their wildest dreams. I mean, think about that. How many of our ancestors looked up at a cloud and wondered what it would be like to see life from the other side? What would the Pharaohs of Egypt have given 5,000 years ago to be able to

So, I was on a roll. I was an executive with a nice salary, annual bonuses, and stock options, all the perks. Everything was on track. And on Monday, January 7th, 2008 at three o’clock in the afternoon, in a small conference room on the top floor of our building, the president of the company wanted to have a quick meeting with me, which wasn’t unusual since he was my boss. But the meeting turned out to be even more brief than expected. He fired me. I’ll never forget how his words just sucked the breath right out of me, and I left the conference room in a dazed state. I went home and curled up in my bed in the fetal position for three hours. While I could go on in vivid detail about how I felt, what it did to my self-esteem, my finances, and so on, what

There is one phrase that I have always wanted to say to everyone in my life. That phrase is “Life is easy.” It’s so easy and fun. I never thought like that before. When I was in Bangkok, I felt like life was very hard, very complicated. I was born in a poor village in the Northeastern part of Thailand. When I was a kid, everything was fun and easy. But when the TV came, many people came to the village, and they said, “You are poor, you need to chase success in your life. You need to go to Bangkok to pursue success in your life.” So I felt bad, I felt poor. I needed to go to Bangkok. When I went to Bangkok, it was not very fun. You need to learn, study a lot, and work very hard to get success. I worked very hard, at least

Hello, everyone. I’m here to help you design your life. We’re going to use the technique of design thinking. Design thinking is something we’ve been working on at the d.School and in the School of Engineering for over 50 years. It’s an innovation methodology that works on products and services. But I think the most interesting design problem is your life! So that’s what we’re going to talk about. I want to just make sure everybody knows: this is my buddy Dave Evans, his face. Dave and I are the co-authors of the book, and he is the guy who helped me co-found the Life Design Lab at Stanford. So what do we do in the Life Design Lab? We teach the class that helps you figure out what you want to be when you grow up. Now, I’m going to give you the first reframe. Designers love reframes. How

The day I got laid off from my job at Martha Stewart, I was relieved. I loved the job, I really did. But the relationship was over and I didn’t know how to end it, and then it broke up with me. Don’t you love it when that happens? At the time, I’d also been hosting a radio show for the Martha Stewart brand on Sirius XM. Not long after, that got cancelled too. On the day of my last show, I got onto the elevator at the 36th floor, and as it started to drop, I began to cry. Every floor took me further from what I had been: a magazine editor, a radio host, the person with the cool job to talk about at parties. You know. And honestly, I had no idea what I was going to do. And quite frankly, no one was looking for me.

The answer is yes. I did play basketball. Yeah. I remember the exact day and place my entire life changed and I didn’t even know it. It’s April 26th and I’m 18 years old. I’m in the gym. I’m listening to a podcast, as I usually do when I work out. And I heard the podcast guest in my ear say something. I’d heard so many of these 30 to 60-something psychologists, activists, authors, and business leaders say many times before. “If I had the same mindset now that I did in my teens or 20s, I’d be miserable. I was such an idiot.” I remember every time I heard those statements expressed with a laugh, it made me feel sad. I was entering college. I didn’t want to be miserable, and then I felt actually pretty irritated. I refused to be miserable. Much of this refusal of misery had

It was 2:45 PM on a rainy Friday in Los Angeles. My dad was just brewing a cup of coffee in the kitchen when he answered a call from an unknown number. He froze as he heard a woman violently crying and screaming on the other side of the line. Next, a strong masculine voice came on. And he said to my dad, “We have your daughter, and if you don’t listen to every single word that we say, we’re going to kill her.” My dad paused, he lost his breath for a moment, and he managed to ask, “Can I talk to her?” “Do you want us to break her arm?” They taunted him. Now, you have to understand I am one of two daughters. And sadly, just six months before this phone call came in, we took my big sister off of life support. I’ll never forget the