When we grow in our life, it’s about me, myself, Amit Pandey, born and brought up in Kanpur. You people might not be able to even relive the kind of childhood memories we used to have in Kanpur. We used to have wonderful childhood memories, you know, all these things used to be our daily routine activities. When it comes to studies, I never wanted to be a good studious boy, never ever. I was good in studies. So, the full day was like, you know…
And that is the first time when I got failed, when I was in the eighth class. And that is the time when I got some hammer on my head. And I wanted somebody started telling that let’s become sincere rather than becoming serious. I’ll let you know what I’m saying. To become sincere and not serious in life. And that’s how I started doing a lot of studies and 10th, 11th, 12th…
Unfortunately, HBDA Khan put’s him in chemical engineering and then I started my journey in the corporate world. What I have learned during all these corporate world experiences, as well as my childhood memories, a lot of life skills, a lot of social skills. So, if you talk about the mental well-being, the mental wellness, it’s actually a combination of how is your mindset.
So, we can categorize the entire mindset into three different colors: one is called the green mindset, yellow mindset, and the red mindset. Green mindset means the mindset is so powerful, very, very powerful mindset. And the best thing where I can tell all of you is the power of signaling.
The moment you give a signal to your mind, we all remember that mind is known for remembering anything, creating memory. I’ll tell you, mind also has a very powerful feature on itself, and that is called what not to remember. Let me give you an example. Do you all remember around a week back, let’s say on the 28th of January 2023, at night when you were having dinner at your home, do you all remember what was the food you have taken? No, not at all. Same day, if I had to tell you that when you were partying last time with your friend’s birthday around a month back, you all know, “Oh, you ordered pizza,” and that’s why I know.
So, mind actually is telling you what you should not remember, which is a reoccurring event, and you should not fill those things with your mind. That’s how the signaling gives a lot of power to the people like us. The moment we start creating that power in our mindset, we start building that so-called the powerful mindset. Then only the green mindset comes.
Now, if you see, there are a lot of problems what happens in our life, and the moment we see all these problems, these problems start hitting our mind, and we keep accepting them. So, the another theory what I want all of you to remember, and that is called power of acceptance.
Accept whatever comes in front of you as it is, without making any changes. And this another theory is called the power of chance. I don’t know how many of you know that the power of chance says that the things coming in your life by chance are more powerful than by choice.
How did we got our parents? By chance or by choice? By chance, right? Or somebody saying by choice? Yes, might be by choice. Right? We got all our parents by chance. And we got, I think the most beautiful things happened in our life, the most beautiful gift what we have got is our parents, no doubt about it. Is…
Now, if you see, the technology is actually deteriorating your mind to become more choice-driven. Life, whatever you want, which college you want, which school you want, you select everything. And that’s how your mind start working. “I’ll get what I want.”
When I was a small child, as I told you, it was to be a child. My so-called the room used to be on the third floor. Family’s…
It’s working in your life at this moment. It’s all gifted. You have not earned the day, the time, the moment. You start understanding the power of earning. Everything in this world need to be earned. Nothing is gifted. And not many people have seen. They have not many confusion about the so-called the term logis. I see a lot of people say that happiness comes from the things when you know something which is called the materialistic thing. I’ll tell you, that is not happiness. That is called pleasure. The difference between pleasure and happiness is whenever you get something for yourself, that will give you pleasure.
Whenever you do something for somebody else and the other person gives you, “Thank you so much,” that vibes come back to you. And you got those inner feelings that what you did for somebody else, that is called happiness.
Simple for example, in your birthday, your parents gifted you a new iPhone. Super duper happy. Some people started even imagining. Some people started even, you know, creating the clip and, “Mom, whether you’re giving me the iPhone?” Okay. The moment you get the iPhone and you are telling the people, “I’m super duper happy,” but how many days you will be happy? Two days? Three days? Five days? Seven days? Right?
Now, remember a situation. You start earning, making a lot of efforts, building a lot of personality, earning money, and gifting your parents an iPhone from your own money. And they are saying, “Proud of you, my son.” “Proud of you, my daughter.” Happiness. The real happiness comes from the things which money can’t buy.
Like, when I was a small kid, again, we used to touch the feet of all these elders. And there is a standard operating procedure. Everybody used to say. And once, I asked my father, “I am already a happy-go-lucky guy, 17 years. I was a very happy guy.” I said, “Yeah, yeah. Something like, you know, what I want in my life.” And they were like, my father’s told me a very beautiful thing. He said, “Better.”
Foreign, have you ever seen people when they grow, they stop laughing? I was doing a leadership development program in one of the pharma companies. All these CXO level people, children imagines or vice presidents were there during my session. I cracked a joke. Nobody laughed. Tell them.
Seriously. So, never ever get tired to become a serious guy. Remove this theory. So, don’t be serious in life. Be sincere in life. That’s the mantra. When you become sincere, you
build your focus. And when you become sincere, you build your focus. When you build your focus, your output becomes really, really extraordinary. And that’s what, ladies and gentlemen, has happened in my life. A childhood kind of person, what I have told you about the stories. Normally, I don’t tell. But if I tell you what was my first job…
My first job, I was selling newspapers when I was studying in the 11th class to earn some money and buy ML Kanaki Chemistry book. Just keep prices. That was my first job. So, life will teach not many things to you. You just need to understand and see the things from a different perspective.
I see a lot of people get trapped into environments, situations, circumstances, negative people around you. If you see how’s your life is going, you will say, “My life is getting influenced by these kind of people.” It’s a myth. There are only three people who are going to drive your life. Either they will pull you, they will push you, they will make you successful, or they’ll make you, like, miserably failure kind of a person. And they are called I, me, and myself.
It’s a very simple theory of the boiled water. The same boiled water, you put an egg on it, the inside of the egg becomes hard. The same boiled water, you put a potato in it, it becomes soft. That means the environment should not dictate you, you should dictate the environment. Doesn’t matter how people around me are there.
Let me tell you, the world is inherently negative. They will trap you. They will trap you to make you unsuccessful. Trust me. And they will teach you every day. You will be passing another day. This is another thing what people will teach you. And you will start adopting. And that is called postponing your happiness, joy, celebration, preponing your tension, sadness, and all the future problems.
All joy, happiness, people keep postponing. And why people do that, I don’t understand. It’s so simple. Life is so beautiful. That’s what I have discovered. The only thing what you need to build, those eyes which can see beauty around us.
So, two people standing like this, I’m creating a line. I’m asking you, what is written over there? What you’ll say? Six. I’ll say nine. And we’ll keep fighting who is right. Both are right. What is different? From where somebody else is saying, from where I am seeing. That’s the only fundamental values.
You see, there is a conflict. Understand. Ninety-six through and second and most important point, all of these are, I think, the power of acceptance, accepting unexpected. If I tell you a very hilarious scene, I think some old people might be able to understand. You might have heard. So, earlier, people used to come to our home without any call. You won’t believe it is unexpected.
What is the power of accepting unexpected today? Because of the technology, word, these things will not happen. But at the same time, you have to start building your mindset. Create powerful mindset. The beauty of the mental health is the real happiness. More and more you are happy, more and more you are peaceful. You will enjoy your life. Live every moment of your life. Do not pass another day.